Our second wedding anniversary is coming in a few weeks, it is probably very young for some couples that have been together for twenty years or more, but for me and David it feels quite significant. We have almost spent two years together as a married couple and I can say that it is an achievement.
Our friend asked me about the significant of being married and my first respond was it is one thing that can be explained in words but has to be understood from one's own experience. I think each person has their own expectation and different reasons to be married, these make one's marriage experience different from others.
As for me marriage means having a team mate to tackle difficulties in life and to share the joy of life, as I always believe that happiness will multiple when we share it. Marriage comes with responsibilities, as everything we do will affect not only our own lives, but two lives or more for those who have children. So the biggest change in my life is that I am now a team player. Therefore, I think and act as part of a team.
David and I came from different backgrounds. David grew up in New Zealand, I grew up in Indonesia with different languages and cultures. However, I learnt from the very first month of our relationship, that we make a very good team,. as two are better than one.
Every couple is unique so I think, it is really important to find what works best for your own relationship. Learning from others experiences can also be very useful. Having said that, it is important to free yourself from others' opinion that might not be suitable for you. Do not compare your relationship with others as this may result in disappointment.
Two years into our marriage we have had joy and tears, but one thing remains, we face life together. Last year, we launched our weight-loss consultation business Lighthouse Nutritionists, we bought our first 4WD, travelled around the North Island together, and I experienced snow for the first time. This year I finally passed my AMC examination. We also experienced some disappointments, David's grandmother passed away a few weeks ago and I lost one of my friends in Indonesia.
We are not a perfect couple, and we will never look for a perfection, but we are perfect for each other. I am looking forward to celebrating our second wedding anniversary and many more to come.